This is the most intelligent post, http://www.jciti.com/talk/viewtopic.php?t=29
I have read on this Nagoya Nerd forum. I actually learned something from this post, viz. the Gaijin Nerd that is going out with a woman that appears somewhat attractive (and therefore inapproapriate for the Gaijin Nerd) is actually usual a loser of a different sort, e.g. semi-retarded or an ax murderer.
The bold emphasis in the quote below is mine, the whole argument is powerful, but the bolds items are gems. Finally someone else with some intellect makes a posting on this board!
yeah i agree with thelma. frikkin geeks who go to japan with little talent for english and (not much for anything else) to pick up j-girls are just one step shy of having the guts to go to Thailand to pick up some proper hookers. All respect due to normal (non-gaijin-fetish) japanese people and their genuine (non-japanese-fetish) gaijin partners who are together for genuine compatibility reasons given.
Gaijin-fetish-j-girls: They usually aren't your average japanese girl. Very seldom considered pretty or socially acceptable among their japanese peers, they go for any old gaijin loser cos
1) foreigners can't communicate with them well enough understand their intellectual and emotional shortcomings.
2) like it was put forward in the thread, j-girl fetish gaijins think that "7-8 out of 10 j-girls are pretty"... WHAT THE! are you kidding... ask the local opinion... i really beg to differ. but anyway, loser gaijins make them feel beautiful.
3) someone in the thread made a reference to his numerous sex offers recieved while teaching in japanese high schools. yes, this is because for some weird reason, gaijins are seen as horny by the local japanese too (hence thelma's original argument) and a slutty girl who wants a cheap dicking in japan thinks she can safely approach a gaijin without the humiliating rejection or "oh my god you're a total slut" that she might recieve normally.
1)can't get any back home
2) communication with j-girl not good enough for her to realise that he's anything but a fascinating person (similar to above)
3)due to cultural differences e.g. "peter explains to keiko his fascinating western hobby but keiko doesn't know that collecting dungeons and dragons models and painting them is the most loser-like thing you can do in the west." she doesn't realise that he's a geek.
watching and meeting losers like these piss me off. it undermines the hard work that us normal guys (who deserve sex) put into developing a decent attractive personality.
just some thoughts
okay, so it's nice that these people can find sex partners or whatever... but they're just satisfying their horny needs instead of addressing their social shortcomings. it's bad in the long run. They're just finding partners cos of their racial fetishes and remember, to keiko, peter could be any gaijin, and to peter, keiko could be any j-girl and it would be just as good.